Oppps sale!

My wardrobe is full. Seriously, there is no need for, or room for, buying something new. I can find new combinations of the old.

But, sale happened today….

Ganni is one of my favourite brands today, I seem to love so much of what they make, at least the last few seasons. When I saw they had sale, I really had to pace myself, to not put everythibg in the shopping bag ;-)

I did end up with this gorgeous silk kimono, though. I plan to use it as a dress, as a kimono, on top of a jeans and a tank – endeless possibilities.

Do you have any other styling tips for long kimonos?
  

Chic in soft shorts?

Soft shorts with embellishment can be really comfy, add some heels and a jacket, and you will be dressed up to go out. 

The calendar says July, but is had been so rainy and cold, that I am still really craving to use all of my summer wardrobe – that is the fun part of the wardrobe, in my book! 

   
 

My intentions

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Jeg kan rive av meg huden

For at du skal se mine intensjoner

Når det kjennes nært og sårt

Kler du deg også naken

For da er vi mennesker

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I can rip off my skin

for you to see my intentions

When it feels close and tender

you as well will get unclad

for then,

then we are human

(Copyright, Sonja Durand)

We want to be the alpha…

Once again, violence between adolescents is documented on video, and gone viral. 

Bullying is the equivalence to violence. No excuses. It is violence. Whether it is physical or mental, it causes tremendous pain for the person involved. Imagine how your most painful moment is shared with hundreds, even thousands of people. Imagine the feeling of shame, even though the shame should be theirs. Imagine the powerlessness, because the others are desperately trying to feel powerful, only to your expense.

It is in the nature of human beings to try to gain power, power will secure survival of ourselves and our genes. If we feel powerless in a situation, most of us have learnt ways to deal with such a situation. It can be overwhelming, it can be scary, it can leave us feeling worthless, but need be, we are capable of regulating our emotions, and find other ways to deal with them, like finding solutions to the situation based on previous experiences or the experiences of others, or we will empower ourselves in other situations, so that we feel more balanced.

Some will not. They will respond to the raw emotion of powerlessness and gain power with violence. Because violence is so effective. Unfortunately. Few things are so effective to get someone to do what you want. If you choose to ignore what it will do to the other.

But, what when violence becomes more than a desperate act? What when it becomes a way to increase a status, fictive or not, among other young people? 

Violence is as old as man, so I am not blaming the internet for the violence. Even so, as someone who is bullying, trying to gain “respect” and status, you will have a much larger audience. Perhaps you would not even had gone there, if you met your classmate on the road back from school, alone. Perhaps the possibility of an audience increases the activity in the reward-system in the brain, so that something that could have been avoided, in fact was encouraged by that mere possibility.

We are, unfortunately, fairly primitive. We want to be the alpha. We want to survive. And, we are not even aware where most of our reactions stem from. From our lower brain, the one we share with all other animals. Because we are. We truly are – the worst, sometimes.

There is a way to choose otherwise, to use the higher parts of our brains. Give your children lots and lots of empathy and help them reflection around themselves and others. Thus, they learn to active the higher brains, and might be able to respond accordingly. And, they may need your help for a long time. Our empathy is not fully developed until we are in our 20s…

The hat nerd

I felt like 14 again, road-tripping with my mom, turning the volume on the radio on and rocking to the music, mom with a little overbearing grin on her face:-)

And, I also nagged her to take pictures, what a blogger needs to do, huh! :-)

The day we left was quite sunny and nice, contrary to the rest of the vacation, which was mostly gloomy and rainy.

I have discovered that I am a hat-nerd: this had I got sent from the US – just because I thought it was awesome! And, good quality! Oh well, shoe-nerd, hat-nerd, don’t care…..

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